i have observed that a lot of you will be heading to the east coast this summer, particularly to my old stomping grounds, halifax!
halifax is a fantastic city. i lived there for almost ten years until it was time to move on. there is delicious pizza (at island greek, on the corner of gottigen and cornwallis), there is rocking for dollars, (the best, cheapest, weirdest way you could spend a monday night, at reflections, on sackville street. you can win money. never mind the chlorine smell), there is the robert’s st social centre! (zines! workshops! soon to be somewhere other than robert’s street!) and of course, the water. there are also lots of cool punks and interesting people, and a really awesome punk festival that goes on in may. this will be it’s third year, harbour water fest. i hope a lot of you get down for it.
basically, you’re going to a really fun place, and if you going during the fest, or any other point in the summer, there are going to be a lot of awesome people around, the majority of whom are very cool. however, having lived in the city for so long, i don’t think i’d be ok with myself if i didn’t tell you about one person who is not very cool at all. his name is brendan. (those are pictures of him, below.)
a lot of folks don’t have much to do with brendan because he’s a skeezy guy, but halifax is tiny, and chances are good you may still see him around when you’re kicking it at any number of sweet places around town.
brendan’s an emotional manipulator who pulls all sorts of sketchy shit with his partners. he’s also been called out a whole bunch of times, and he is not interested in working on his shit. if he tells you otherwise, he is LYING to you. folks have called out brendan and attempted to guide him through accountability processes before, and it has been wholly ineffective. brendan shows no remorse, and when he does, it is entirely self centred, blaming those he has assaulted and manipulated, citing them as the source of his depression, and suicidal feelings.
if you’ve bought his shit, don’t be embarrassed. so many people have. i have. people i know still buy it. but it’s not true. he is a master manipulator, and if he has manipulated you in the past, it is not your fault.
i am telling you this because brendan loves to get his hooks into people who are drinking, who are sad, and who are vulnerable. he will make you feel like the only person in the room. he will make you feel like he is exactly what you need. he will do anything to get what he wants from you.
there is not currently anything in place to hold brendan accountable and brendan has shown no interest in meaningful accountability processes as i have mentioned, and however you want to handle brendan if you see him it is ultimately up to you, but i would not recommend engaging with him at all.
please reblog this and be safe in the best little city, and keep your friends safe too.
this is important.